Last time, I wrote about how to handle troubled situations. I laid down the best approaches when you are stuck in a difficult situation. I liked it. The three actions you should take in the situation are the best choices, I believe. But, I got another question. Is that it? The thought was very 'Humanistic'. There was no room for Divinity.
Last Sunday, my church's pastor gave a great sermon. Interestingly, the topic was same. How to handle troubled situations. But the conclusion was totally different my writing.
The passage of the sermon was from Exodus where Moses and Israelite were facing red sea and Egyptian army was chasing them. Israelite didn't go there by a chance. Bible says that God told Moses to bring his people to that place and wait. It was near important army base of Egypt. The instruction did not make any sense. No wonder Israelite complained. But that's when God showed who HE is - dividing Red Sea so people can cross and making it collapsed with Egyptian army.
With God in the picture, it becomes a totally different story.
First, do not fear. You need to trust HE has a plan for you no matter what the situation is. You may be there by your mistake or some force beyond your control. Still have faith. HE can turn the trouble into a blessing. HE is the king.
Second, know your place and know how HE works. In previous posting, I said you need to do your best as if your life depends on it. But Bible teaches other way. Sometimes you should shut your mouth and watch what HE does. It is tricky because sometimes HE wants you to act. You need to know how HE works. A good news is as the situation gets worse and you have less options, HE shows greater things.
Third, grow through the experience. HE turns your trouble into a training. Not just a training. It makes you distinguished. Blessing when you are thrown into a fire furnace transforms you. Again, everything is about YOU. HE wants YOU to grow. What HE cares is only YOU.
For recent several years, I have struggled from bad habits. They are including lack of focus, multi-tasking, procrastination, and urge to check SNS and news. It was not bad at the beginning. Even though I used internet, I could control easily. I had good focus. But ironically as I have more load from work and study, I lose focus more.
I don't know which one came first. Lack of focus? Or procratination? Anyway, they are each sides of one coin. When I don't have focus, I procrastinate. In order to procrastinate, I open myself to distractions.
There were several attempts to change my habit with some success. But sooner or later, bad habits come back. Sometimes I see myself watching movies even though final is several days away :( I know it is to avoid pressures. I know the theories of procrastination. I can diagnose myself ... But still MY BEHAVIOR IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!!
Here I try again. I don't remember how many tries I made before. It doesn't matter. This must be the last one. My first target is getting rid of distractions since there are many developed over the years.
Tweeter consumed my time, sometimes a lot. I had good number of followers. I used it to share my thoughts on self-development, politics, and other not-right topics. It was not total waste of time. But I let it go. More harm than benefit.
News portal consumed my attention. It's gone. No urge to check it multiple times a day.
Politics of my home country was important to me. Now I put it in the good hands of people in the land. Anyway, I can't even vote in Korean elections.
Facebook will continue. There are good connections - friends, classmates and collegues. But I will limit my time on it for 10 min per day. I am enforcing myself with 'StayFocused' - chrome extension.
I have two blogs. One in Korean and one in English. I care for them, specially one in Korean. Tons of thoughts I put there. Good connections too. But I didn't write a word on it for a while. I am letting it go too. From now, I will write only on this blog in English.
Still there are unlimited sources of distractions. I need to get rid of them one by one. Oh! I got rid of TV too. There is no cable at my home. Only netflix.
'Focus' - free e-book of Leo Babauta is my guide now for this new journey. Once I succeed with first habit change, I will move toward next one. 'Focus' - powered by unschedule.
From time to time, you are stuck in a situation that you never wanted. Your boss told you that your end of year review will be bad. You got suspended from your school. You could not prepare a term paper when it is due tomorrow. Or you got a notice from the collection office because someone you co-signed did not pay her loan. No one ever wants to be in this kind of situation. But still it happens. So what you are gonna do?
The goal is to get out of the situation, of course. But is that it? You may get help from someone, or from God. (People will call it ‘luck’ or ‘blessing’ depending on their belief. I am the latter, btw.) You may find a way to get out by yourself. The problem may disappear suddenly. Or in many cases, you live with the consequences.
But is that it? Shouldn’t be. If you just want to get out of the situation and make the experience a piece of memory as you do, there is no improvement. There should be better way to deal with it.
First, deal with it with everything you have. You never know what’s going to happen when you throw all of you as if your life depends on it. Do the best. Don’t leave any excuse.
Second, put your effort on the best bang for the buck. To make the best out of your effort, you need to find out what area will make the best outcome. There must be one or two. Focus on the areas. You don’t have much time.
Third, learn from it. Analyze why you got there. What could prevent the situation? Who caused the trouble? Don’t skim through. Go deep. Go to the root cause. But remember. It is not for finger-pointing. All thoughts should end up with these questions. “What could YOU do to prevent it? What could YOU do to make a better outcome?” It is all about you, not someone else.
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